Be Real

“Nobody wants to be lonely. Everybody wants to belong to a group. The crowd is essential for the false self to exist. The moment it is lonely you start freaking out. To be an individual is the greatest courage. It does not matter that the whole world is against me. What matters is that my experience is valid. Don’t die before realizing your authentic self.” ~Osho.

The greatest challenge here is that we first have to be real and true with ourselves. It is act of becoming unmasked and accepting our strengths and foibles without shame and avoiding the mask of falseness and pretentious that dims your realities. To be real also means to act in accordance with how you are, speak what you believe and stop being sorry for being real.

Today, driven by self ego and the world of competition, many tend to hide reality by putting falseness in the photos they put up in popular social media sites and showing unrealistic kindness and politeness in front of the crowds that actually deserves to be called cruel bastard. This is because of the believe that when they do things to please their peers, such as drink when they shouldn't, wear things that aren’t comfortable and accept the things that that are not pleasing or behave and act in appropriate ways, they will be popular and liked. They go against their own common sense only to find themselves in trouble and not accomplishing what they set out to do.

If you know and love yourself you will find it effortless to be true to yourself. Just as you cannot love anyone else until you love yourself, you cannot be true to anyone else until you are true to yourself. Difficult it may seem at first to many who are used to being fake, to have the courage to accept yourself as you really are, not as someone else thinks you should be. Do not pretend to be someone else for the sake of gaining unrealistic acceptance. When you do things that are not genuine or a reflection of the real you, you will be happy at first but will surely end up confused later. Self-respect comes from being true to who you really are and from acting in accordance with your self-instinct.

When you respect yourself, others will respect you. They will sense that you are strong and capable of standing up for yourself and your thoughts. When you are true to yourself, you allow your individuality and differences to shine through. To be true to yourself takes courage as it requires you to be introspective, sincere, straightforward and fair. It does not mean that you are inconsiderate or disrespectful of others. It means that you will not let others define you or make choice for you that you should make for yourself. 

Only then can we begin to be real with others, because there will be nothing of us to hide. We will know when to say “no” and when to say “yes.” We will keep open our minds and take any precarious steps not because we overcome the all sense of fear, but because we know we can be scary and still do it anyways. If we can accept our full, awkward humanity, then we can learn how to extend ourselves openly into what aligns with us and feels right, our purpose .And we can meet conflict directly, without the misalignment that grow from avoidance, denial and gossip.

P.S (For those whom I said to be real and don't ever be fake)